I've heard this phrase many times and I can totally relate....
Being a parent is HARD yall! Not a day goes by that I don't second guess my parenting abilities. I think every parent does that. If you are a parent who things you have it all figured out and your kids are perfect.... then you might have more issues than the rest of us! On Thursday, I had one of those "I'm totally messing this parenting thing up" moments. It started on Wednesday night. Brenna came home with her report card, and was marked down to a 2 instead of a 3 in two categories. One was uses time wisely, and the other was shows respect to others. UMMMMM???? WHAT? As my Mama would say, "Houston we have lift off!" I was hot! I understand that, as much as I want her to be, my child isn't perfect. And I can totally see her getting marked down on using time wisely. I see it at home. That doesn't mean I was going to let her get away with it, it just means that I can see how she would get marked down on that one. HOWEVER- getting marked down for showing respect to others totally blew me away. It was like someone punched me in the gut. I couldn't believe that she would do something so serious to get marked down on her report card! So, I emailed her teacher asking for details but didn't get a reply that day. I got home (since I looked at her grades on skyward before leaving work) and we had a LONG talk. I drilled her about what she might have done to get that marking. The talk involved tears and her telling me "I don't know what I did Mama!" It ended with her being grounded from TV and her Ipad. She was NOT happy. Then on Thursday morning, I finally got an email from her teacher stating that the grade was a MISTAKE and she should have all 3's and no 2's. Oh my goodness yall- I felt like I had been punched in the gut once again!! I grilled my child for 30 minutes solid telling her she had made bad decisions and questioning her about her friends etc, when she did NOTHING wrong. I felt terrible!! But then again, at least if she ever does do anything wrong, she will know that I mean business and that she won't get away with it!
It was made a little better when Josh sent me this picture of her sitting in his truck at 1:00.
He's a great Daddy! I think this treat totally made up for the unnecessary lecture and grounding.
SO- after all of that, we get to Friday night. Josh and I are out to dinner just the two of us (woo hoo for date night!!) and I get this text...
Oh my gosh yall! It was a proud Mom moment! This text totally made my day. The lady that sent it lives in our neighborhood. We are friends, but not close friends. So she went out of her way to type this up and send it to me. I was blown away. Of course I think my children are the greatest kids ever. But to have someone else tell me this about my kiddo, wow.
It was a great Friday night treat. In the midst of being fairly certain we were scaring our child for life, we got affirmation that we are doing something right. Maybe our kids will survive our parenting mistakes after all.
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